Remember when you first met your spouse and your heart would flip-flop whenever you looked at them? Enter kids. I’m going to be a terrible person and say straight up what every new parent thinks: children are an absolute blessing, but they are also a wet blanket.
At the end of the day, when the kids are finally asleep, my husband and I usually flop down exhausted on opposite ends of our couch. We spend an hour or so staring blankly at each other before stumbling up to bed.
The other night, we decided it was time to do something drastic. It was time to recapture the romance. We had it all planned out. We would put the kids to bed early and then spend some time together, just us. Quality time. No television, no computer, no comic books (um, that last one applies to him, not me). Sounds like a dream come true, eh?
You know what happened? As soon as we put our three-month old to bed, she began to cry. She cried. And she cried. And she cried some more. She cried into the late hours of the night. Our evening was spent trying to console her – except that she was inconsolable.
You know what happened when she finally calmed down? We flopped down exhausted on opposite ends of our couch and spent an hour or so staring blankly at each other before stumbling up to bed.
I’m thinking that it’s time to: (a) teach our littlest darling how to take a bottle … so that we can (b) find a sitter within our budget (which would be free – any volunteers?). Then we can go out for a nice walk and just spend some uninterrupted time together.
So now it’s your turn. All you other new parents out there, what do you do to keep the pizazz in your relationship?